There are many people in this world who feel uncomfortable with being alone. It’s understandable to a point—most people enjoy the sense of community and belonging that comes from spending time with friends and loved ones who care about them. However, finding joy in solitude is really important. It’s during our moments of aloneness that we have the opportunity to go inward, figure out who we are, think about what we want, and connect with our creativity.
I’ve been taking a lot of time lately to celebrate my solitude. Although I’m blessed with wonderful friends and a loving family who lives in close proximity to me, many of my moments are spent alone. I’ve been working out, cooking for one, trying my hand at poetry, going out alone to listen to live music, driving to new places, enjoying time in nature, and basking in the warmth and beauty of my fireplace and Christmas tree. It has also been a time of introspection and meditation, and I’m grateful for that. I’m definitely the type of person who enjoys her alone time.
I’ve wondered why some people don’t really like to be alone, and I think that—sometimes—people might honestly be afraid of what they’ll see when they go inward. Maybe they feel inadequate. Maybe they feel damaged, disfigured, or insecure. Maybe they don’t even know who they are. That can be scary to have to deal with, for sure, and I think a lot of us (myself included) have had to reckon with these demons at some point.
However, it’s really important to take time every once in a while to be alone—to embrace who we are at our deepest cores and find joy in having an opportunity to connect with ourselves. If you’re someone who struggles with enjoying alone time, let me assure you that it’s wonderful. When else can you be your truest, most authentic, rawest self? You don’t have to worry about pleasing anyone other than yourself, and you don’t have to worry about how the people around you will react to your presence. It’s just you. Don’t you love you?
If you’re not used to doing certain things alone—like going out, walking around, or even just listening to your own thoughts—now is the perfect time to try it. It might seem a little weird or even scary at first, but there’s nothing to worry about. Take some time to listen to the voices in your head, work through your insecurities, figure out who you are, decide what you want to do, go out, have fun, sing at the top of your lungs and dance in the kitchen, express your creativity, cry and be sad if you need to, feel wonderful and royal if you need to. Maybe take an opportunity to meditate, to balance your chakras, to just sit in silence. All these things are so important, and it is through our aloneness that we are able to recharge, connect with our spirit, and be whole. Once we do that, we are able to more fully enjoy the sense of belonging and community that comes with being with others.
Enjoy your journey, and celebrate your solitude.