Hello, lovely readers!
You may have noticed that this article is not about the third eye chakra (which should have followed the throat chakra in my Chakra Series). Don’t worry! We are just taking a slight detour. I’ll continue with the Chakra Series on Thursday, but at the moment, there is something pressing on my heart, which I feel deserves an article of its own and simply can’t wait for the Chakra Series to end. It’s all about the notion of authenticity.
The idea of authenticity is something that’s been pretty prevalent in my life lately, especially since, recently, I realized that I had lost myself for a while. I’ve always been somewhat of a people pleaser, and after spending so much time giving myself away to others (literally giving parts of my soul away), I was honestly at a point where I felt like a shell of a human being. I frequently experienced bouts of anxiety and depression, and I was so tired all the time. I actually thought there were parts of me that had died and would never return. Needless to say, I was not letting the sunshine into my life.
I was well aware that I was stifling myself, as much as I didn’t want to admit it. My intuition was telling me to go one way, but I adamantly refused to acknowledge it. I pretended that I wasn’t kidding myself—that I was living “authentically”—even though I knew very well that I was cheating myself out of the abundant joy that comes as a result of being oneself. In my case, my problems were relationship-oriented; however, any time a person chooses not to listen to their intuition—that gut feeling, the inner voice—it becomes impossible to live in a truly authentic manner.
So what exactly is authenticity? In this context, it has everything to do with being true to our own personality, spirit, and character. It’s a sense of sincerity, being genuine, and being unapologetically ourselves—regardless of what other people may think. It takes courage to be authentic, especially when we are compelled to make decisions that others may not agree with, or when expressing vulnerability.
Living authentically takes courage and bravery. It often involves risk. It says, “I know who I am, and I stand up for what I believe in, regardless of what judgement may come.” It begins as a small voice within us that grows as we nourish it, until we have no choice but to be true to ourselves. It reminds us that it’s okay to make mistakes as long as we remember to grow from them, and it requires us to be honest with ourselves at all times. It acknowledges our limitations, but it refuses to allow them to hold us back. It leads to the experience of many seemingly miraculous moments, simply as a result of us living in the flow of the Universe. It prevents us from worrying about things over which we lack control. It permits us to express our highest truth—even when it’s difficult or lends itself to intense vulnerability. When we live authentically, we are able to make decisions confidently and quickly, without pressure from those around us. We know ourselves well, we live in the moment, and we trust our intuition. We pursue our passions and live creatively, and we do not settle for anything but the truth. Above all, we love and accept ourselves exactly as we are, and we recognize that the power to be joyful and abundant comes from within our own hearts. It does not matter how broken we may have been in the past—when we commit to living and loving in an authentic manner, we leave ourselves with no other choice but to be whole. I fully believe that choosing to live authentically is the key to healing any emotional or spiritual wound.
Brené Brown, a researcher of courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy, once stated, “If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.” I’ve experienced this firsthand, as many human beings have, and I can say that owning our authenticity is worth the risk and vulnerability it entails when compared with the detrimental effects of choosing “safety” instead.
This actually connects well with the idea of unblocking our chakras. It is incredibly common for our chakras to become blocked when we live in ways that are not true to who we are. For example, if we live from a place of lack and feel that our basic needs are not being met, our root chakra becomes blocked. Living from a place of fear, we then lack the trust necessary to live from a place of authenticity. When we stifle our sexuality or creativity—whether out of shame, embarrassment, or other reasons—we are stifling a part of who we are, which makes it very difficult to live authentically, and which corresponds to a blockage in our sacral chakra. When we give our power away to others in constant fear of judgement, our solar plexus chakra becomes blocked. Due to a seeming inability to come into our personal power, authenticity becomes impossible. When we don’t listen to our heart, our heart chakra becomes blocked, and since authenticity involves following our heart, this blockage also prevents us from living authentically. When we are unable to speak our highest truth, our throat chakra becomes blocked, and authenticity is not present. When we refuse to hear our intuition, our third eye becomes blocked, and authenticity cannot live within us. When we feel disconnected from the universal energy that created us, we pull ourselves out of the flow. The crown chakra becomes blocked, and living in a way that is authentic to our spirituality is very difficult. Literally every chakra in our body can be connected with authentic living. This is why unblocking our chakras is so important and why it can lead to such a great deal of healing.
It can be daunting to embark on a journey of authentic living, especially since there is a great deal of risk and vulnerability involved. However, in order to live our fullest, most wonderful lives, it is absolutely necessary.
For those of you who are struggling right now–who feel like parts of yourself are missing: No matter how “lost” you feel, it is never too late to become whole again. It takes a lot of work, especially if you have been conditioned all your life to feel like you’ll never be good enough, and it can be a really emotionally charged process. There are quite a few entities in our lives and sociey that tell us to think, believe, and act in certain ways; and many times, these “certain ways” go against what we may be feeling intuitively. It is so important to listen to the gut feelings we get (that’s our intuition!) and to cultivate an attitude of self-acceptance. Loving ourselves for all our perfect imperfections might take some practice, but in the end, it lends us to absolutely authentic living, which opens up the door to immense abundance and joy. You deserve wonderful things. You deserve love from yourself. You deserve to be able to express yourself. You deserve to embrace your quirks and personal power, and you deserve to be vulnerable at times. Please–embrace the divinity you are! Be comfortable with being yourself.
I am so incredibly grateful to be where I am right now. After losing myself for a little while, I’m ecstatic to say that I’M BACK! I realized that I had not been being true to myself, and I made the changes necessary to bring me back to a place of authenticity. The parts of me I thought were dead came back—it turns out, they were only sleeping for a while (thank goodness!). Knowing what I know now, I can say with certainty that I will never lose myself again, especially to a relationship. It’s an indescribable feeling to feel more “me” than I ever have, and it’s a feeling I hope every human being will get to experience at some point. So please, get to clearing those chakras (which you can read about in the various parts of my Chakra Series that have already been published); embrace the risk, uncertainty, bravery, and sense of wonder that comes with being true to yourself; and live authentically! It is the most freeing feeling, and it is ever so important. Let the sunshine into your life.
With so much love,